{"id":123,"date":"2019-02-03T13:11:56","date_gmt":"2019-02-03T12:11:56","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/relaunch.bebc-coaching.com\/?p=123"},"modified":"2021-01-01T15:33:51","modified_gmt":"2021-01-01T14:33:51","slug":"its-something-we-should-talk-about","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bettina-bonkas.com\/en\/its-something-we-should-talk-about.html","title":{"rendered":"It&#8217;s something we should talk about"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>It had a real \u201cwow-effect\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\r\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">on me when I heard Prince Harry opening up in public about his mum\u2019s death. I was in England with my family, having breakfast at a B&amp;B. The TV was on and at first I thought: \u201cI don\u2019t like the TV on while I\u2019m having breakfast.\u201d But then I thought: \u201cI quite like it, it\u2019s BBC breakfast TV.\u201d And then I heard Prince Harry talking about his mum\u2019s death. I only got snippets as the others were talking and not paying attention. I just thought: \u201cHow most powerful! Stop talking everybody I want to listen.&#8221; (Of course I didn\u2019t say anything, I am better behaved than that!) <br \/><\/span><\/p>\r\n<p><!--more--><\/p>\r\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Here\u2019s someone in a most public position, from a most special family and he is very candid about his feelings.\u201d I wanted to hear more about it when I was back in Germany but we know what it\u2019s like: We\u2019re back in our everyday life, have our commitments and forget. Months later I saw, by chance, that there was a documentary with Prince William and Prince Harry about their late mother. I was deeply impressed and also touched: By Princess Diana\u2019s loving care, empathy and sensitivity, by the Prince\u2019s candidness and engagement for \u201cHeads together\u201d, a mental health charity. By chance I found this interview with the amazing Duchess of Cambridge and the two princes: <a href=\"https:\/\/youtu.be\/45RqUmxDXiY\">https:\/\/youtu.be\/45RqUmxDXiY<\/a><br \/><br \/>I feel very strongly about their engagement. Mental health is a topic still stigmatised in our society. It\u2019s slowly getting better, in Germany it is, but still, people have problems admitting to mental health issues. The problem is you can\u2019t see it as opposed to a physical injury.<br \/><br \/>Having such wonderful champions for opening up and being brave, it is a sign of bravery to openly talk about the deep impact of your mother\u2019s death especially in this position, is a wonderful step in the right direction. <br \/><br \/>Relationships are an important resilience factor: You don\u2019t bottle up your emotions. You have people you can talk to, people you can listen to \u2013 you\u2019re strong enough to accept their help. Talking is so incredibly healing. <br \/><br \/>And you offer help yourself. I remember, long ago, I was a student, another fellow student told me that her mother had died. I was shocked and I didn\u2019t know what to say. I just said to her: \u201cI\u2019m really, really sorry. I don\u2019t know what to say but I\u2019m really feeling with you and I hugged her.\u201d She told me later that it did her good. <br \/><br \/>From my aunt I\u2019ve learned that ducking away is one of the worst things you can do: She lost two children at the age of 7 and 17 within only 5 years. It hurt her so much when people on the street when on seeing her changed the side for fear of talking to her. <br \/><br \/>Of course it\u2019s not easy and you probably don\u2019t know what to say but then I always say to myself: \u201cFor me it\u2019s just that I don\u2019t know what to say, it might be an embarrassing feeling but I admit to it and later I\u2019ll be over it. But they\u2019ve suffered a great loss, for them it\u2019s not over a short time later, so pull yourself together and help them!\u201d<br \/><br \/>Resilient people are honest to themselves and to others: They don\u2019t play perfect world! No life is perfect, it would be boring anyway and how would you grow? When we stand together and support each other in less perfect times, we can make our lives a lot more pleasant.<br \/><br \/>I love the campaign of the Duchess of Cambridge, Princes William and Harry and I really hope that many people will take them as role models, open up and feel the healing effect of doing s<\/span>o.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>It had a real \u201cwow-effect\u201d on me when I heard Prince Harry opening up in public about his mum\u2019s death. I was in England with my family, having breakfast at a B&amp;B. 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